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Best exercise to maintain strength and balance required for dancing correctly is simply to dance correctly. However, beginning dancers sometimes need preliminary work, without which they are unable to dance correctly and so develop bad habits.
Excellent exercise for both core stability and balance is standing motionless on one foot for extended length of time (60+ seconds). To make exercise more difficult, cross arms over chest and close eyes, or try standing motionless on front of foot only.
Planks (downward facing, side, upward facing) also build core stability.
Shoulder stability (important for leaders) can be improved with: pullups; side planks with fully extended supporting arm; kettlebell exercises.
Because tango is danced closely, important to keep clothes clean smelling, but because of exertion while dancing, shirt underarms may become fouled by perspiration smells, which are sometimes difficult to remove by hand washing shirt in sink.
What I do is following: immediately after returning home from milonga, remove collar stays from shirt, fill sink with warm water, wet shirt thoroughly, rub liquid soap or shampoo against area of shirt around underarms and where women's left underarm may have rested against right sleeve, agitate shirt into soapy water, rinse until soap removed, squeeze shirt into ball to expel excess water (do NOT wring shirt, as this will break seams), replace collar stays, hang shirt to air dry.
If process just described insufficient to to remove all smell, then before hanging shirt to dry, dip both underarms into cup containing small amount of Revivex Odor Eliminator by GearAid (previously known as Mirazyme by McNett) diluted by water. Any smell not removed by soap will be consumed by enzymes as shirt slowly dries. Enzymes in Revivex Odor Eliminator should not affect shirt fabric, but best to test on bottom hem initially, just to be safe. Revivex Odor Eliminator can be ordered from REI.com, Amazon.com and other retailers.
White vinegar is another possibility to remove stubborn odors.
In addition to keeping shirt and other clothes clean smelling, men should try to wear something nicer than baggy tee shirt and shorts or blue jeans. Sloppy dress doesn't directly affect dancing, but it does create bad first impression on followers, so may reduce availability of followers willing to dance closely with man. Business quality long sleeve shirt, with cuffs rolled up to mid forearms in warm conditions, and matching quality long pants, is best choice for most men at modern milongas that don't require full dress suit. I prefer dark colors for both shirt and pants myself, but this is optional. Quality tight-fitting black tee-shirt might be okay for men with lean but muscular upper body. I prefer my long sleeve shirt tucked into my pants, however tight-fitting shirts can also look nice even untucked.
My 100% cotton dress shirts and 100% nylon home-sewn pants both naturally air dry wrinkle-free if hung from a hanger while drying. Wrinkles caused by shirt being carried rolled up in my backpack can be removed by putting shirt on immediately after showering but without drying upper body, so that moisture clinging to body is transferred to shirt and removes wrinkles as shirt dries from body heat.
Many tango dancers value ability to pivot easily, which requires slippery floor and/or slippery soles on shoes, especially leather soles specifically designed for dancing. Other dancers prefer less slipperiness. So there is potential for conflict.
Floor can be made more slippery by first cleaning of sticky substances like dried residue from spilled sugary soft drinks, then waxing and polishing, and finally sprinkling talc. Talc is bad idea, in my opinion, because of difficulty determining exact amount to pour and then distributing evenly, plus dust contaminates premises (audio equipment and other electronics, food being served, people's lungs, etc). Better idea is to focus on making floor slippery enough through cleaning, waxing and polishing to satisfy dancers who want maximal slipperiness, then allow dancers to reduce slipperiness on individual basis by modifying shoe soles.
Shoes can be made less slippery by: applying rosin to leather soles; dampening leather soles with water; using rubber instead of leather soles; inserting strips of rubber at edges of leather sole to use as brakes (there are shoe repair shops in Buenos Aires that specialize in adding such rubber inserts). My preference is to simply dampen leather soles with water: initial soak before leaving home for milonga, then possible further wetting by pouring water on floor near my chair and stepping in resulting puddle, or else visit restroom to soak soles again using sink. Or milonga organizer can provide shallow plastic container with wet towel in it for dancers to step on. Traces of dampness transferred from shoes to floor will almost immediately evaporate, leaving floor unchanged for other dancers. Whereas rosin not so easy to apply, nor to reduce if excess applied, and traces of rosin transferred from shoes to floor will permanently reduce floor slipperiness for other dancers.
My preferred tango shoes for quality dance floors are men's ballet flats (Capezio brand Hanami model with suede sole patches and canvas upper, size 16W), dampened with water to reduce slipperiness. I recommend applying fray-check to all seams, especially seams that attach suede sole patches to canvas upper. For very rough floors, as in some nightclubs without dedicated dance floor, I use rubber sole street shoes.
No better way to evaluate sexual compatibility, besides act of sex itself, than dancing tango in apilado embrace. So first priority, upon encountering partner who sexually attracts you, should be to dance as many tandas with them as possible. "Where do you usually dance?" communicates that you want to dance again with this partner, while their reply tells you exactly how to arrange future meetings. Even if partner doesn't currently reciprocate your interest, pressure on them is minimal with this simple question.
Aside from being completely inappropriate behavior at milongas, crude physical expressions of sexual interest are often counter-productive. Dancers are usually aware that other people at milonga are watching everything that happens, and so they may take safe and easy road of immediate rejection, even when interest is reciprocated, simply to avoid gossip. Such immediate rejection then creates awkwardness that is difficult to recover from. Examples of crude behavior: grinding pelvis against partner; stroking back or neck; groping breasts or buttocks; kissing; squeezing back or arm muscles. Much better way to express interest is say you enjoyed dance together and hope to dance again in the future: avoid crudity, focus initially on dancing rather than sex.
Most elegant way for two partners to express strong mutual attraction and immediate availability, is for both to delay saying "thank you" at end of tanda, waiting for other person to speak first. Delay that continues across cortina implies couple will dance next tanda together, and perhaps dance all night long if neither partner ever says "thank you".
If only motive for dancing is mate-seeking/evaluation, then tendency to only dance with persons who sexually attract you, which greatly limits choice of dance partners, which soon makes it obvious to everyone what you are up to, which then creates pressured situation for anyone who invites you to dance (if you are a woman) or accepts your invitation (if you are a man). Final result is you dance very seldom, are bored at the milongas, and probably never meet the mate you are seeking. Much better if you can enjoy dancing even with partners who you do not find sexually attractive, so that mate-seeking/evaluation is secondary motive and primary motive is social-skills-development, embrace-seeking, non-verbal-conversation, or curiosity-satisfying.
Common for only one member of couple to attend milonga, because other partner does not enjoy dancing. Also common for single women to wear wedding rings to avoid unwanted attention from men, and for married men to remove wedding rings because rings are dangerous when working with machinery. So to know true relationship status of unaccompanied dancers, best to explicitly ask. If reply is that they are currently in a relationship, either they are lying because they are not interested in you other than as dance partner, or they are telling the truth, in which case you should wait for them to notify you if and when their current relationship ends.
Above points apply less strictly to tango classes, especially beginner classes, than milongas. That is, more acceptable at beginner class than at milonga for man to engage in conversation with woman who showed some interest in him while dancing, and then to ask her on date if conversation goes well. Beginner classes typically provide better selection of singles than milongas and so those whose primary goal is mate-seeking/evaluation should simply repeat beginner class over and over versus attending milongas or intermediate classes.
Leo y Flor tango essays/videos: https://tangoclass.co.kr/en/.
Paul Yang tango blog: https://yangningyuan.blogspot.com.
Janis Kenyon blog: https://jantango.wordpress.com. Most of this immense blog devoted to memories of people whom author met at Buenos Aires milongas, but also many useful (and randomly scattered, so you need to skim through the entire blog) posts about expected social behavior at traditional Buenos Aires milongas: how to dance, how to dress, where to sit, how to invite or be invited, etc.